There’s nothing more enticing than a holiday romance: flirting by the pool, strolling along the beach holding hands, enjoying a cocktail and a kiss while the sun is setting. But when you come back home, reality comes crashing down on you and your holiday romance may not seem as suitable as they did when bathed in sunlight. On the other hand, if you genuinely feel that the person you met on holiday is the one for you, you’ll probably be wondering how your relationship is going to work when you’re both back to the daily grind. Here’s a guide on how to keep your holiday romance alive once you’re back home.
Most people behave differently when they travel. You’re in completely new surroundings, no one knows you and, let’s face it, it’s so much simpler to be easy-going, fun-loving and spontaneous when you don’t have work, studies or other worries to think about. However, if your new romance is to stand a chance when you get back home, there’s no point in being someone you’re not. Talk to them about your life back home and ask them about theirs to see how much you have in common when you’re not on holiday. Being dishonest about who you really are isn’t just deceitful to your new partner, it’s also downright exhausting pretending to be someone you’re not.
Communication is, of course, a huge part of any relationship, but it’s even more important when you’re planning on continuing a holiday romance, especially if you and your new beau are going to be living far apart. Be honest about what you want from the relationship and how you think it’s going to work. Tell each other about your life goals and how you see your futures panning out. This is a good way of finding out if you really are compatible and whether it’s worth making the effort with a long-distance romance.
It’s difficult to not get swept away when romantic feelings are incredibly tense but if your new relationship is going to survive, you need to think about the practicalities of how it’s going to work in real terms. If one of you lives in Europe and the other in Australia, it might be hard to keep the romance alive. Think realistically about how often you’re going to see each other: are you just going to meet each other on holiday once a year or is one of you prepared to move to the other side of the world? If you live on the same continent, this can be easier but you will still need to work out how often you are going to visit one another.
It’s Okay To Move on
Sometimes holiday romances might not work out and that is okay too remember that there are plenty of free dating sites around that will help you meet new people and maybe start something new.
Remember That Your Relationship Is Not So Different From Any Other
Relationships take a certain amount of work to make them last the distance. In this sense, holiday romances are no different to ‘normal’ relationships; while it might seem that statistics are against you when trying to make your holiday love work, remember that many average relationships don’t work out either. If both of you really feel like you have something worth having, then you will put the work in to make it survive, just like any other relationship.